It’s hard to imagine that anyone has never wondered how is it possible to have a happy marriage. I have heard women talking about it, but when I think about it, I have seldom heard men discuss it.
Sometimes I look at couples walking down the street, holding hands & chirping to each other happily, and ask myself “What is their secret ?”
It’s not like I don’t know that good marriages can and do happen all the time! I come from parents who have been happily and successfully married for well over 37 years, so I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Here’s the thing about relationships like theirs, they don’t have many issues they feel the need to take to their friends or co-workers for advice.
When you do hear people talk about the keys for success to a happy marriage, it’s usually the female half of the couple speaking. After all, our society basically expects it to be every woman’s job to be the one responsible for any and all conversing that has to take place about love and intimacy.
While it’s true that some women do feel more comfortable than men when it comes to talking about what makes their marriage successful, that doesn’t mean that plenty of men out there don’t have their own meaningful take on the subject.
You’ll be surprised, when you hear these married men reveal secrets for how to have a happy marriage.
Argue to understand, not to win.
“When arguing with your Spouse, the goal isn’t to win the argument. The goal is to solve a problem.”
Be complete people as individuals.
“The strongest relationships come from two strong, happy individuals coming together, not two broken individuals relying on each other for happiness.”
Creativity is key, Use your imagination.
“Be creative. Any idiot can throw himself at your wife and worship her. That means nothing. Instead, use your imagination to find new ways to make her life better in ways she could not have thought of.”
Prioritize your realtionship.
“That’s the one thing that I’ve learned from my parents’ 37 year marriage. They never prioritized their kids over their relationship. The marriage always comes first.”
Stop being selfish.
“Always remember that what you do should enhance the marriage and your relationship, and not yourself. That might be not spending money on yourself, or picking a location so one person has an easier commute.”
Have each other’s backs.
“Her corner is your corner. Period. Even if she’s wrong, and she will be. Give her your input, try and give her your advice, but there will come days that no matter what you say, she’s going to put the car towards the edge of the cliff and drive it right off. When those days come, you buckle your seat belt.”